Anal sex dating


I always advise the women, and I write about this in the book, to not need all the details of what their man has done. I also want them to know that the marriage can survive.And finally, I try to make sure that the women in these relationships understand that their man’s behavior is not about them, it’s about him and his unmet needs.



So they go find a guy who will take care of that for them. Then I tell them that a lot of gay men don’t do anal at all, either giving or receiving. And when the woman understands this she can start to connect with him on that level, supporting him and bonding with him instead of obsessing about what he’s done.Do the women always want the man’s same-sex behavior to stop?Most of the time they do, because it’s threatening their marriage.The straight men have no homophobia at all – to the point where they’re willing to seek counseling from me, an openly gay therapist. Who does the man want to go to dinner and a show with, who does he want to spend the holidays with, who does he want to wake up next to in the morning? What are the psychological underpinnings for this behavior?